the shape of things

What I know is: shame is round like the blonde bowl cut on the fat boy who led a chorus of laughter
in fifth grade when mine were the only crying eyes on the reading rug
where our kind teacher sat us down to discuss current events and
told us of a moose who’d drowned in the swimming pool of some
bewildered wealthy northeasterners who probably didn’t realize the risk
their pool posed to local wildlife, the news story said
(probably rugged skiers and avid vegetarians
probably Alan Chartoc fans, probably had a fundraiser to commemorate
ungulates who’d fallen prey to the
bad landscaping and affluenza particular to the region)
and although ropes and cranes and firefighters were deployed, the teacher said,
unfortunately the legs were broken and it really was so sad, she said, and
my cells swelled with love and sorrow for this beast
because I had seen a moose! Alive! They are magic! Monsters!
and swimming pools were for the kind of kids who didn’t
invite me to their birthday parties
thus when discussing the facts of this moose’s demise on that crumby public school carpet
I cried only from knowing how true and unfair it was
the firm circle of shame settled around this silly audacity for caring about another creature
and the same cells that swelled in love and sorrow calcified

I learned the shape of shame from a smelly yellow prophylactic that lived for three years in a drawer
in careless company with the ephemera of pubescence
(a diary, never locked; a notebook of bad poems, three black permanent markers, dried up; unsheathed CDs, weak dreams)
before that, it sat in a glass bowl around which we circled during Unitarian Sunday school sex-ed
where we learned what love felt like
and what it wasn’t supposed to, then reached our greedy preteen hands
and grinned like children grabbing candy as we scooped squishy, foreign foil-wrapped items
by half dozens, stuffing them in discreet paper bags and carrying then a mere and vague awareness of what
such a small slice of latex might one day mean to us
and three years later
it was with the same giddy glee and self-conscious confidence that I retrieved this banana-
flavored condom from the drawer when I decided that our love felt right and
I wasn’t afraid of what it could do,
we used it and boy did it stink
when that boy broke up with me a few weeks later in a Goodwill parking lot
“just not having fun anymore” and I realized it didn’t then or ever matter
in fact
I’d never even asked myself whether I thought we were in the first place

What I know is: I learned the shape of things from a kindergarten calendar,
a construction paper horseshoe,
mostly blues, at least for December which was my month, at the end of the arc of the birthday chart
I cannot shake
this shape
and it showed me that my first frames were false prophets
brightly papered arches a simulacrum but unseeable
and I will always need to consciously choose to see the seamless circle of months’ flowing
between January and December, I will always have to consciously know that
my worst self
she’s a false fear

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